While every body is different, a few basic things remain the same. Here are some tried and true tips for before, during and after performing cunnilingus:
- Share a shower together before you begin so neither of you have to worry about possible unpleasant tastes or odors.
- Ask your partner what she likes. At the very least, she can say things like "harder" or "slower" or "more circles."
- Fill your own mouth with saliva first. Never touch or lick the clitoris with a dry finger or tongue.
- Know where the clitoris is but don't dive straight for it. First try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva.
- Tell her how good she looks, smells and tastes.
- Think variety. If you repeat the same motion, your partner may become temporarily insensitive to it, so be sure to vary your stimulation.
- Let your hands roam. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina.
- Some women like to have a finger gently inserted into their anus. If she doesn't like it, don't do it.
- Continue to fondle and hold her as she orgasms and after.
- The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis. Be gentle.
- Unlike men, many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm. Keep it going until she asks you to stop.
 Often oral sex is part of the foreplay process. It often involves the genitals and the mouth. Oral sex for women is called cunnilingus. Cunnilingus stimulates the women with the tongue into her vagina. Oral sex for men is called fellatio. This is when men have their penis sucked, licked and kissed.
Every body is different. However, some variation on the following plan should work wonders.
Set the scene with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever she prefers. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her.
Make sure she's comfortable. Encourage her to recline on the bed. Place a few pillows behind her head. Make sure she isn't cold.
Don't dive directly for the genitals; spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts and belly. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Tell her how beautiful she is. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips.
When she's breathing heavily, gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound. Nuzzle around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Pay attention to her breathing; when she breathes faster, she's enjoying herself more. Take note of what she likes and repeat it.
When she sounds highly aroused -- she may be wiggling around a bit, as well -- spread her labia and gently kiss and tongue her clitoris. Don't hold the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too -- the clitoris is highly sensitive.
Lick and nuzzle the entire area: vaginal opening, perineum, inner labia and clitoris. If she says or otherwise indicates that she particularly likes what you're doing, spend a little time there.
Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her buttocks, and get to work on her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Be patient: you might be here awhile. If she's not responding to the clitoral pressure you're exerting, try some variations. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet across her genitals and clitoris. Try inserting your tongue into her vagina (some women dislike this, so pay attention to her response or just ask her if she likes it). Vary speed, pressure and intensity. Try inserting your fingers or a sex toy into her vagina. Be creative.
When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. Whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's probably about to have an orgasm.
Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.
Surprise her with oral sex props
You don't have to rely solely on your mouth or fingers when "going down south" on your woman. Our tongues and fingers were not made to vibrate, pulsate or gyrate and most of us can't provide unlimited stimulation with them. And, sometimes orally pleasing your partner can be downright tiring. Never fear, there are some special oral sex props that can assist you. Try the following to enhance your oral play repertoire:
- When your tongue gets tired of flicking and licking her "love button", try using a clitoral stimulator as a stand-in. A bullet vibe works best, giving you lots of room to continue stimulating the rest of her vulva with your mouth and/or fingers.
- Some women enjoy vaginal or anal penetration while having their clitoris stimulated. As mentioned above, you can try inserting a finger or two to stimulate her internally. Next time, try inserting a well lubricated small sex toy that vibrates. Some even have a special curved tip ideal for G-Spot stimulation.
- Finally, try using some flavored lube (for your benefit).
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